Marriage is full of Suprises!

I so thoroughy enjoyed reading Chapter 2 and found myself with many reflective thoughts.  I thought I would list a few of them that stood out to me.

• I think of myself as being independent, but the Hmong people are described as being spectacularly independent!
• The Hmong women were among the laughingest, happiest she had met.  I love being around happy people!
• How would you like to have 12 people living in a 1 room home?  No thank you!
• She mentions privacy and loneliness as being twins and that privacy is the happier one.  If given a choice would you rather be lonely or have privacy?  I think for myself it would be privacy.
• It would be comforting to be surrounded by many emotional buttresses.
• With rare exceptions, one man is pretty much the same as another (Hmong women).  What do you think?!
• You matter (Western culture) vs your role matters (Hmong people)
• Plant an expectation, reap a disappointment - a good old adage
• Wait-a-Minute-Moments
• Are you a compulsive comparer?
• Our job description as a spouse should not to be each other's everything.

This chapter is overflowing with so much to think about.  I was especially instrigued by the Wait-a-Minute-Moments.

I cannot say when this was a precise wait-a-minute-moment, but maybe a gradual process to get there.  I know longer have to have an immacuately clean house to feel good about company coming over.  I know there is a difference between a really dirty house and one that just has some day-to-day clutter.  I think people feel more at home in a home they feel at home in - one that is comfortable and relaxed.  Why put so much pressure on myself for perfection?

And to STOP being a compulsive comparer - that lead to nothing positive.

What are some of yours?